Well, I suppose sincere prayer could help, if you both approach God with humility and try to work out your problems together, other than that you could try a good marriage counselor who could examine both of you individually and the resulting dynamics of your relationship, and then tell each of you what steps you need to take to make it work. A relationship almost always inevitably becomes a power struggle between two entities, which is why Paul strongly advised against starting one, since it will naturally detract you from serving God more. Karel
Well, When I was 14 my grandmother had alot of Hispanics in and around her house. My sisters and I use to spend weekends at her place. The guys were not very respectful and some would sneak a feel or a kiss any chance they got. I was not a confident girl. One guy became a boyfriend and was very determined to have sex. I really did not want to but I didn’t fight either. (not sure if that would be considered rape or not) I just never fought or defended myself. I had a very low self-esteem and didn’t feel worth much. (dad was an alcoholic and verbal abuser) First 2 years after marrying my husband we drifted apart and fought over unmet expectations. Eventually separating. We began to change our attitudes and got back together. After that it seemed we would always get into a huge fight every year that lead to a separation. Just recently I learned that I became too, spoiled, bratty and clingy than what I was when we dated and was less attractive to him because of it. So, I’m trying to be more independent and headstrong. I do find him attractive. The cuddling and kissing I don’t seem to have trouble with but any further than that and I get emotionally numb. Right now we have another family staying with us till they can find a place(a husband, wife and 2boys 13 and 9 years old). Plus we have a 2 year old and just recently had a baby. My husband and I rarely get any time together.
I think that alot of my past experiences is hindering me from intimating enjoying my husband the way God intended. We’ve been married for 6 years and have been through a few separations. I just feel there is an emotional block somewhere and I can’t pinpoint it. Please help me.