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Suffering from Pain of Betrayal from Husband

> I am in so much pain ... I married the love of my life, the one I
> thought God wanted me to marry, 2 1/2 years ago. I recently found out
> that he has cheated on me with one of my best friends, and now he's
> decided he doesn't want to be married anymore.

> I don't even know if God hears me anymore. I pray for an end to this
> pain but it only seems to get worse.

In the bible, Paul says we should try to be without a partner, because he wants to "spare us many problems in this world". Then he also says "it is better to have a partner than to burn with passion".

Then he also mentions once about the Spirit helping him overcome the "thorn in his side".

So, now that you have gotten into this predicament and your soul is suffering such pain, God's Spirit can perhaps soothe your pain a bit, but this is a pain in your soul and something you must simply live through. On the other hand, it is in painful times like this that, I feel, our souls develop the most. So perhaps you could use the moment to your advantage and help it develop your soul further. Let the pain pierce through the centre of your softened heart and wash through you like ocean waves over a beach. The worst thing you can do is to bottle yourself up and promise yourself never to expose yourself to love again. This is just a part of life and the nature of us humans: torn by the desires of our flesh, temptation, and our desire to be closer to God.

God always hears you, but I don't think you can expect him to somehow evaporate this pain in your soul. This pain is associated with your betrayed love from your husband. For God to remove this pain from your soul, he would probably have to remove from your heart your love for your husband...

Praying for you

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